I am an ordinary 25 year old woman. I am faced with a difficult decision and would like to ask for your advice. Ever since I was a child, I wanted to be a famous designer. She sewed clothes for her dolls and repaired old clothes with her own hands to create unique designs that could not be found anywhere else.
Always imagine yourself in the shoes of Diane von Furstenburg, or Vera Wang, or Stella McCartney. She watches fashion TV all day, researches the latest trends, competes with people and tries to dress first. In Mongolia, fashion often comes a little late, so if you find a new idea or a new motive, you make it yourself and wear it.
I feel like I came into this world to become a designer with a real name. However, I actually graduated from university with a degree in marketing, and my parents still refused to let me become a fashion designer. However, I know as much about sewing materials as any design school would teach. While studying at university, I met a guy from my senior year and fell in love.
We really love each other. It’s been 5 years since I met him. It’s hard to imagine being apart from each other, just as it feels like you were born into this world to become a designer, you also feel like you were born into this world to meet him. As long as I have that, I can be whole in my heart.
But recently, 7 months ago, I went to fashion studios and asked for things, and I met a brother. He has a lot of wealth and is 7 years older than me. The way you interact and the things you use are more loving than touching. At least because she loves fashion, she is so nice and interesting to meet her brother. He said he lives in America and came here for a year.
At first, I said it’s good that my brother has a dream, I like to help such girls, stay in touch with my brother. My boyfriend knows her too. Even though I love my boyfriend, I feel like he has a world that I don’t know, that he is a bridge to my dream life. And in the last few meetings, he started talking about taking me to America.
He said that the state where he lives has the most famous fashion design school in America, and he wants to take me there and train. He was interested in looking at the small collection I designed. But everything has its price. “The most important thing is that you should join my business after you finish school.”
That’s all he wants from me. Although I have only known him for 7 months, I know and feel that he is a good person. But because of my family, I don’t like you because I can trust you and what if I send you to human trafficking. That’s fine. That will never happen, I know about his work, his family in Mongolia and many other things.
But the problem I am facing is whether I should choose my dream or my love. I’m working here for the profession I graduated from and I’m earning a decent salary, and so is my boyfriend. If I go to America, it will be at least 4 years, if I join this brother’s business, it may be several more years. But my dream is in America. But I don’t think about leaving my boyfriend.
I thought a lot about whether to go or what to do, but I thought that there were four. My boyfriend is only Mongolian who has never thought about living abroad and doesn’t want to live. That’s why it’s pointless to hope that he will come after you. To be honest, if I go to America, my boyfriend and I will break up. And I will achieve my dreams and achieve my goals.
But if you stay here, you will be happy with your loved one, but you will still be an ordinary woman with an average income and a job you don’t like. Have any of you faced this choice? Which one would you choose? I can’t really touch my head. Advise me, sisters and brothers.