Hello? I am asking you all to help me and advise me. Let’s start the letter.
I live with my 29-year-old husband and daughter. I have been living with my husband for 5 years. We were a beautiful couple 3 years ago. It was the first name of the family, which did not compromise, trusted and loved each other.
After getting married and having a son, we both lost a bit of care for each other, and because of the mess, we became distant from each other.
At this time, while I was looking for work and going on a business trip, I accidentally met and kept in touch with a young man, but I left my husband behind several times.
When I think about that, I will never understand that I got into such a situation in such a hurry.
When I think that I got into this situation by myself, I think that it is because my husband is a bit shy, he doesn’t listen to me, he doesn’t talk openly, and his attitude has influenced me.
And after that incident, I continued to be in a relationship with that person, either because I liked the way he took care of me, or because he knew my secret, or 1 year after that incident, my husband found out that I was in a relationship with another person, and I had a problem.
At that time, I told my husband about everything that had happened, cut off contact, and ended up talking to him on the phone. It has been 3 years since then, and our relationship has not improved, it has continued to deteriorate.
We have 2 more children and 1 son, because of my husband’s heart, he is not ready to part with me.
Sometimes we argue and argue, but it doesn’t help either, and after 3 years of this kind of work, we are now entering the 4th year. I apologized to my husband many times, since then I stopped going to work and social gatherings, I don’t remember that incident.
Even though I have made many attempts to revive our old relationship, my husband has not changed, and my relationship remains the same. Now we both have a relationship like a jury, we don’t have any good things, we don’t talk about life anymore.
I don’t care about what I have said, and no matter how many times I ask about something, they are angry, so I stop asking, and I just go on my own.
It is very difficult to live with the words of a loved one who is not loved and cared for, regrets the loss every day, and listens to the words of the heart broken by the loved one. Both of us proposed to divorce, but the parents stopped thinking about their children.
Please give me advice on how to end this difficult relationship and have a normal relationship…