Right now, I don’t know what to do, so I want to hear the opinions of my readers.
I have been pregnant and married for over 2 years. Then he came to live with his in-laws. I am not saying that my husband and parents-in-law are bad people. But for two years, I felt that my mother-in-law was too involved in my life and I was upset. At first, I was happy because I had a really nice and caring mother-in-law. But it seems that there is a need to be careful in love and care.
My son is about to turn 2 years old now, and since I have no one to show him, I took care of him by myself until 1.8 months. My director kept calling me to ask if I was going to start work, and he put me in a nice place with a higher salary than before. My son has had a cold since 9 months. Then the director and my older sister, who works with me, take 3-4 days off to take care of my son.
Salary is not deducted. In addition, I have started a good job with a great future to learn a lot, and I don’t want to quit so easily. The main problem is my mother-in-law. It seems that people think that they have the right to dictate and command people while still managing their two sons and husband. Don’t know. Recently, my son had a cold while he was sleeping, and he came into the room and said, “One of you should stop working.” That’s how a child earns 30 cents.” and left.
Of course the boy won’t quit, right girls? When I was about to start working for the first time, he said, “How do you work?” It was not a lack of money.” In fact, I had already passed the master’s degree in Korea. Then I got pregnant and suddenly started living with a man and took a year off. After talking with my son and my husband, I had agreed to go there, but my mother-in-law said that she would take the child, and it was difficult for people there, and what would you do if the child were to get hurt? Since I stopped working, I have become dependent on my husband.
My parents are just ordinary employees, so I didn’t have a chance to buy a place. It seems to you that my mother-in-law only cares about our children. But I’m also human. It seems that I sat with my mother-in-law, not my husband. That’s why I couldn’t go to school. My parents can’t help me, so I’m really afraid that I’ll end up in a human place, and I’ve come this far. I took annual leave for 2 years in a row, got a job this fall and quit.
I’m sorry now. I missed a great opportunity to learn. But my husband runs a private business with his mother and brother. He does not have any monetary authority. All the money is concentrated on the mother. Just in September, my parents-in-law bought a new apartment, and we were going to separate, but my mother-in-law was looking for a 3-room apartment, and it turned out to be a lie.
I’m not lacking here, I’m raising my son without worrying about his food, clothes, and clothes, but I don’t know if it’s right or wrong for me to keep putting myself out there like this. Now, if I leave this job like this, I am not sure if I will be able to come back later. If a person gets angry and goes away while working with you… You might think that you can’t just explain it to your mother-in-law and handle it. But my mother-in-law’s opinion will not change even if it appears.
Just find some excuse, prove that you are right, and show off by participating in something. Telling me what earrings to wear when I go out, telling me that the clothes I bought are ugly, telling me that I like strange colors, and telling me that my child is sick when I come to stay with my parents for one night. I cry when I go to my room alone. I am also very sorry for my husband. The mother always wraps me up and tortures me for the sake of the child’s health, but now she is sleeping without even caring about it.
I didn’t even think about it because my mother would say something and my wife would say something. If I live with this person, I will learn to manage it myself from the beginning, and I will not let my parents participate in my life. My father and mother-in-law have become bad because they take away their beloved daughter and neglect her school, culture and work. It didn’t come to us at all. Now I think I will rent an apartment.
But in the cold of winter, I think that my son will catch a cold in a disgusting house. I don’t get much salary either, so I will probably end up with rent and kindergarten fees. What about food and drink? I told my husband that I was going to take my son and rent an apartment, and he went to sleep without saying anything. I must be trying to decide for myself. I will not regret now.