Hello, I would like to share with you a problem that I am facing.
Please understand that I have no one to talk to. My husband is five years older than me. We have been married for ten years. Mother and father of three children. Until recently, I thought I loved my husband very much.
The fact that I left recently was due to my husband’s work, in a sense, it was an appointment, and the family moved to another country. My husband soon hired me, and I was in a new place with new colleagues.
Ever since I started working there, young people of my age have cared and supported me. At first, I thought that this was tiring. My work is two stations away from my house, so I walk.
Since I have a sedentary job, I thought that I should at least walk in the morning and evening. That young man would meet me on the road every morning and walk with me in the evening. Their house was close to mine.
We walked together like this for four months. At work, he always takes care of me, and in general, I have a good sociable relationship with others who are well-respected at work, so I treated him like a good friend and sometimes like a brother.
One day, on his way home from his co-worker’s daughter’s wedding, the young man revealed his feelings to me. He told me that he would love me no matter if I was the mother of children or someone else’s spouse. In general, they always say nice words and always care and support.
I seem to be getting more used to it as time goes by. My husband has never said a nice word to me in eleven years of marriage. When I was begging and running after you, I ran a lot saying that I am good to you, I will live only with you, and I can’t imagine life without you.
The most beautiful words I have ever heard from my spouse are those. After sitting down and entering the same house, what a nice word, it’s like a frozen potato. But he is the father of my three children. It’s the work and love of the other adults, but I’ll try and do something now and then.
If I don’t try, my husband has no idea that he will try to make love with his wife. It’s like I made a pact that I will always speak and my husband will listen. Three or four days out of a week, if it doesn’t stop, it will smell.
Sometimes there will be interruptions. It’s easy at that time, I just fall asleep without saying a word. It’s very difficult when he’s hot, and he tries to get back up after stepping on the words. I have been married for eleven years, not by right, so I will let my children sleep without making any mistakes.
When the young man was hot and young, he was beaten up because of the mistakes of his words and actions. But I have never once wondered if I love this person. Recently, I wanted to hear warm words and asked – Do you love me?
Then they said that they live together since they don’t love each other. This seems to be the warmest word my husband says to me. That’s why it seems that my feelings for my spouse are gradually cooling down and the care of another person is being taken into consideration.
Worse, I thought about meeting him and even sleeping with him sometimes. But I know very well that it will not happen. . I don’t want to cheat on my three children and my husband, but I am still tempted. What should I do better? Has anyone been in the same situation as me?