1. Don’t ask for more
“My wife and I have been married for 17 years, but each of us turned 40 and we started to lose our compatibility. Soon I filed for divorce and decided to go our separate ways.
For three years after that, my wife and I did not contact each other, but one day she called me. The dog we loved and cared for when we lived together had died. I met him and talked to him for a long time to comfort him. In the end, each of us realized that we were expecting too much from life and finally got back together. Now we are happier than ever.”
2. Grow spiritually
“We faced a lot of problems in a short period of time in terms of health and finances. After that, we fell apart, and for three years our relationship was limited to greetings on holidays such as Christmas and birthdays. A few years later, he contacted me through a mutual acquaintance and asked to meet.
When we met again, we got back together because each of us was excited and attracted to the other. After solving the previous problems, both of us have better control over our emotions, so there are not as many problems as before.
3. It is not necessary to be together every moment
“My father and my stepmother divorced some time ago, and my father left us. After my brother left for college, my mother and I decided to renovate the house, but we called our father because we needed a man’s help. So, when my father came to help with the house repairs, I started to get close again with my mother. Later, they went out and spent time together, but Dad never came home.
They lived this way for almost seven years after their divorce. They love spending time together, but they often have trouble fighting. Now they live together, but have separate bedrooms, and whenever they have a fight, they go to their respective spaces to relax. ”
4. You need to work harder
“I broke up with my wife, who I lived with for four years, because I was not compatible. As a child, he suffered a lot, so he has little self-esteem and is often depressed. Ever since I broke up with him, I’ve worked several part-time jobs alongside my studies to keep myself as busy as possible. But he said that he wants to meet other people and try dating, and later on, he wants to get back together with me.
My wife has now met with a psychologist and started taking medication that suits her. I also have a full-time job and I don’t have much time for graduate work. But now I started focusing on not only one job, but also spending time on it. You need to work harder to solve the problems of your loved one.”
5. Wait for the right time
“My husband and I realized that we were not paying enough attention to things only after we had two children. As I started to take on more responsibility in this family, I felt that my husband should do the same. But after the birth of our second son, both of us began to lose patience. I managed to endure six years of constant fighting and frustration, but in the end we got divorced and I took care of my two sons. But after some time he came to see his children.
One day my car broke down and I had to call my ex-husband because there was no one else around. Since we haven’t seen each other in a long time, I asked if we would like to have dinner after fixing my car, and he agreed. We talked for a long time after the meal and that’s when I realized why our relationship didn’t work out. How can animals who are only 19 years old and have children of their own raise two babies? After seeing the hardships of life, we realized that we have just grown up. So, after 13 years of separation, we decided to get back together. Now we are very happy. You have to wait for the right time to start a family.”
6. It’s never too late
“They said that my grandfather was a man who only focused on his work when he was young, but he hardly had time for his 5 children. So my grandmother divorced him. Finally, my grandfather retired and reunited with my 89-year-old grandmother at the age of 86. It’s never too late if you have the heart.”
